Category Archives: Motivation

What’s Wrong With Success?

You know… I have been thinking a lot lately about how challenging it is to find other people who are passionate about their possibilities….passionate about making a difference….about succeeding in an extraordinary way in the world today.  I mean don’t get me wrong, I know there are plenty of people out there who have worked hard to get a decent job, get paid pretty well, and even have an occupation they love, and I don’t mean to take that away from anybody…but is not the success I am talking about.  That type of success is typical…it’s predictable, and in the overall scheme of things….it’s easy, not to mention very ubiquitous.  Who I am talking about here, are the people with fire in their bellies.  I am talking about the people who look at succeeding as a virtue and not as a vice?  The people who are excited to see what they can do with this thing called life.  People who want to not only see how far they can go, but also, how far you can go.  Where are these people?  Have they all been scared away into hiding!?

It’s really odd, and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been exposed to people whose credo was “que sera sera” or “if you are trying…you are trying too hard.”  I mean what kind of bunk is this?  When did striving to be our best become so undesirable?  When did people start believing that being a go-getter, a risk taker, was incompatible with being compassionate, socially conscious, or good?

And the naysayers!   Wow…there’s no shortage of them.  You would think that there was some special/secret “discouragement fraternity” where being a charter member was something to be celebrated.  You know who I am talking about….those people who want to keep you in their own comfort zone.   Of course I don’t want to be harsh…I do understand that it’s not that this group doesn’t want you to be successful. They just don’t want you to be more successful than they are.   Are you starting to get the picture?…..When did complacency become in vogue?

Here is a thought.  If I were to come up to you at your workplace or your home and say “You ready?…let’s go do it…let’s go change the world! Let’s go create your destiny!”  What would you do?  Would you look up at me like I was crazy…and say, “uhhhh, no thanks”? Or would you say…”let’s go do it…let’s go put a dent in the universe Nate?”  Statistically, many people would be the former…of course It’s my hope that you’d be the latter.

I know, I know…”but success is subjective” one might say.   It’s true it is…but I feel that there is a universal quality that can be applied to this thing called success…and here it is….”It’s the progressive realization of a worthwhile goal, while making a difference in the lives of others”.  Would you agree?  Well here’s a quote from one of my favorite Leaders/Entrepreneurs that is worth the read especially if you have a little voice popping up in your head right about now telling you that I am full of “it”….so here it is, Robin Sharma says  “I have a sense that the best part of you will feel a little hollow. Part of what makes us human is the hunger to realize our greatest gifts and live life fully. We were built to shine. And without significance, I believe that we will feel that we have walked the planet in vain.”….gosh I love this guy!    So, hey…I guess it’s okay if you choose to walk this life in vain, I’d hate to see it happen, but if does, please let’s not pretend that to do so is honorable, and then cast a shadow on success as if there was something wrong with it.  There’ s nothing wrong with success, just like there’s nothing wrong with leaving the world in a better condition than you found it.

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The Terror Barrier

I went to an event last week where I had the pleasure of seeing Bob Proctor, a 75 yr old millionaire and world renowned entrepreneur who carries himself like a youthful 25yr old.

It was a pretty phenomenal experience and EXTREMELY valuable, and I stress extremely because I personally walked away with powerful ideas and insights from an event which usually costs anywhere from $500 – $1,000 all for free!!!

One of the main ideas that I walked away with and really want to share with you, was this idea of the “Terror Barrier”.  An imaginary barrier that many have but probably won’t experience until they try to achieve something great.  If you are one of those who have ever been on the hunt of bigger and better things you probably have very intimate knowledge of what I am talking about.  So, this barrier usually appears when we are just about to make some critical gains in our endeavoring that would definitely set us apart from the also-rans, but….we stop short.  And of course this happens because of an internal block or fear we have, or because of a rule or paradigm which is programmed deep within us.  The barrier manifests itself in self-sabotage, excuse making, circular arguments or rationalizing with ourselves as to why we aren’t doing or can’t do the activities absolutely necessary for our break through towards our success.

So, what’s the solution?  Well, it’s a change in your mental paradigm so you can ultimately change your behaviors.  How do you change your paradigm?  Change your thinking!  How do you change your thinking?  First……START THINKING, (and it’s important you don’t mistake mental activity for thinking), then decide to change what you put into your mind.  Learn, Grow, Challenge yourself and in so doing be selective and very vigilant with what you read, watch, listen to, and then of course with what you think.  It’s as simple as that.

[Disclaimer – This post is written soley for those interested in doing extraordinary things.  If this is not you, please disregard NOW.  This post will self-destruct in 25 seconds……no not really, 🙂  I hope you are smiling!]

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Entrepreneurs Beware – Failure is Subtle

Failure is a sneaky thing.  It usually shows up in our lives when least expected and interestingly it is usually determined from the choices or acts we made long before the moment it is realized.

For instance.  Consequences have a very canny way of not seeming to be a big deal at the moment, even after a couple of days or months.  We can eat  our twinkie or drink our daily beer and think to ourselves “hey, it’s been a month and  I am still looking good, who said this stuff wasn’t good for you”  and so proceed to make the same choices.  And for a couple of months you are probably right, no big changes..no big deal.    And you still look good, well…somewhat, and you haven’t had a heart attack yet.  All is well right?   But..no, it’s down the road where that unwanted failure figure is lurking.  It will show up…and in this case it eventually does as a nice double chin, or that cute spare tire you’ve developed, or in extreme but still very possible cases…..death.

Another example of how failure is subtle can be seen by the employee who happens to take an innocent 10 extra minutes at lunch for personal time.  Thinking to him/herself that it will all be okay since it’s “only” 10 minutes and that their boss will never notice.  But what happens is a year goes by, and those 10 minutes (assuming the avg.  50 week work year) turn into a whopping 2,500 minutes of slack time.  In other words, you just took 41.6 hours of illegitimate paid time off.   Which may be good for you depending upon who you are or what you want.  But the failure comes in the lost opportunity, the lost options.  Now that you just took a whole week off, your competitive coworkers who might not have been as much of an opportunist as you  are now being considered for the promotion you wanted and it’s probably mostly because they are at least one whole week ahead of you!

The same could be said for the entrepreneur.  In this instance you could be a whole week behind in the preparation of an important presentation which was to get you the start up capital that you needed to move your business idea forward.  So, instead of practicing a few simple disciplines a day, and deciding not to sweep away those few “innocent” pleasures,  you lose out to the more prepared entrepreneur who actually does the sweeping that matters and sweeps the investors of their feet.

You see failure is a subtle and scary creature if you are not careful.  No need to fret however…. I am pretty sure that if you practice a few simple disciplines everyday you can still turn everything around.

Stay vigilant my friends.

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The Art of Living Dangerously

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I put together a lens on Squidoo the other day titled The Art of Living Dangerously.  Now, I built this lens for a couple of reasons.  First of all I have a slight fascination with the idea of Dangerous Living, Second, it embodies an idea which I have been striving to live by for quite some time, and finally, it’s a way of living which I think is necesarry for entrepreneurs to have…. especially if they are to  achieve any kind of extraordinary success.  So, for all of my already adventurous and enterprising readers I hope you enjoy the happy reminder of what you are, and for all my readers who are on the fence awaiting “that moment” to which you are to start making some big things happen in your own life, I wish it to be a catalystic experience for you.

Now  if you decide to leave this page before reading it…remember….that our biggest failures in life will be our failure to try, and our biggest risks in life will found in riskless living.  Take a risk today and go and enjoy The Art of Living Dangerously and please don’t hesitate to comment back.

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TGIF….but If not NOW, then When?

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It’s Friday, yahoo!!, the weekend is just around the corner and I am tempted to turn off the laptop, take a nap, go to the pool, and then maybe even prep for a nice night out on the town.  It’s exciting!  So much “FUN” waiting to be had, but, then I realize I have some things that I really want to accomplish.  Activities that I really would like to begin…things I wrote down yesterday and promised myself I would do today.. creations and dreams that are dying to be manifested.  So…what should one do?

I understand the choice will be different for everyone.  Many will choose to “go have fun”…”live it up”….”let their hair down” ….release their Dionysian spirit so to speak.  And this is all good,very tempting, and even healthy(when done in moderation of course…else you end up like Jim Morrison).  And some…more than likely a very select few, will choose to channel that energy into something else.  They will use it to create their dreams, do their  “perpetually procrastinated pet project”, write a book, work on themselves, give back to the world, or become something more than they were yesterday .

What will you do?  Are you going to do the usual, give in to your habits, do what’s easy and more enjoyable, and what everyone else is doing?  Or are you going to put off a little bit of that excess fun to do a little bit more of those activities which you are always complaining about not having enough time for?  And hey, if you choose to go out and play… awesome TGIF!!… please have a brewski for me, but remember this, if you don’t make time for your biggest plans now, then when will you?

Before you decide, process this quote that John C. Maxwell said so well…   “Learn to say ‘no’ to the good so you can say ‘yes’ to the best.”

Have a Phenomenal Friday!!!

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